of siblings & french fries

When I was little, I thought french fries are grand. They are like Opulence Sundae as I am being to exaggerated here,  really, it seemed to classy back in those days because we seldom eat outside. Yes, french fries was not like a daily thing to us way back. That’s why it was special every time we have it – homemade, ordered or given as treat.

 

Today, I remember those times when me and my siblings would try to fry the frozen french fries because mama is doing laundry. The result was outstanding even if it wasn’t and we ate it anyway.

 

Let_S-Promise-That-WeLl-Always-Lookout-For-One-Another-No-Matter-What.-Siblings “Similar to siblings, French Fries all stem from the same family, the potato family. Yet each and every one is different. A different shape, a different flavor, a different purpose, etc.

Now, despite all these differences, each French fry in the batch will share a similar origin story. However, the outcome will be unique.

The point is to have patience with your sibling French fry and realize that life imprints differently on each and every one of us. Some of us will be salty, some of us will be peppered, but in the end we are all just trying to catch up.”-Hannah Hart

Being the middle-child, I feel the weight of the world on my shoulder and my elder sister is just not living up to the expectation of playing the role of someone who should take in-charge. That was my shallow point of view. However, with that disparity, we were brought up to speak up, fight if necessary for the sentiments we have in our hearts. My parents, even now that we are grown, would be there to listen to our fights – knowingly – they are more hurt and disappointed with themselves than we are on why we are having such arguments.

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God’s has designed siblings for a special purpose. 1 John 4:20 says: If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen

These days, when I look back  on the arguments our little family has – I smirk. They seem to be just funny scenes in a movie. Mama & papa made sure that we don’t plant bitterness towards each other no matter what the circumstances maybe. I came to understand also that each sibling has his/her own timeline as most arguments originated in money issues – of how time got wasted because one has become so irresponsible or the other has suddenly became pregnant and the order of things in the family has just become unruly.

“It’s a story as old as humankind: People raised in the same home, at the same time, by the same parents, who as adults land in vastly different financial circumstances.”-unkown

Financial status mostly define authority in the home. I’ve read in one of forbes articles that -“If one makes it, we all make it.’ I don’t want to judge a family from a distance, but I feel bad seeing one sibling at the top 1% and another sibling struggling.” It’s not always the case though as financial status also dictates the level of respect given. I understand that the one who makes a lot of money has the say to almost everything but when it comes to some things as to opinions, respect, love and concern, it should be equally validated, listened to and appreciated.

Sharing with you a good read from Crystal McDowell 🙂

Just as we didn’t get to choose our parents, we also didn’t get to choose our siblings. Some of us are blessed to be very close to our brothers and sisters. Unfortunately many of us can be estranged from them as well. Our earthly relationships can test our faith and give us to question God on how we can grow closer to our siblings even though we may be very different in our viewpoints and experiences. Here are 7 Bible tips for growing closer together:

Be Patient

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love” (Ephesians 4:2).

Many times our siblings have their guard up with us and we don’t even know why. Perhaps they’ve never been healed or delivered from childhood hurt. We can’t take away their past, but we can be patient and resist the urge to judge or push them into a relationship. By patiently praying and trusting in God—we can eventually grow closer to them.

Be Truthful

“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ” (Ephesians 4:15).

Even though it’s not easy, we must strive to speak to our siblings in truth with love. They ought to know that we won’t lie nor would we attempt to deceive them. As we desire to grow closer to our siblings, the relationship needs to be built on the foundation of truth. As we speak the truth, the Holy Spirit can convict their hearts and draw them closer to Jesus.

Be Grateful

“We ought always to thank God for you, brothers and sisters, and rightly so, because your faith is growing more and more, and the love all of you have for one another is increasing” (2 Thessalonians 1:3).

There are many people in the world who don’t have siblings. If we are blessed to have earthly brothers and sisters, we need to show our gratefulness towards having them in our lives. It’s very easy to get a card or make a phone call—just to keep in touch. Our gratefulness will be evident in our investment into the relationship.

Be Kind

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience” (Colossians 3:2).

Parents aren’t perfect and therefore, neither are siblings. Sometimes it’s easier to speak or treat a family member more harshly than it is to a stranger. We become so accustomed to one another that we take each other for granted. Yet a kind word can many times heal old wounds so that siblings can become best friends for life.

Be Loving

“For this is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another” (1 John 3:11).

Love is the mark of every true believer in Jesus Christ. The love that God has shown us through Jesus Christ should flow out of our hearts to our siblings. They will know we are real about our faith in how we show them love in our words and actions. There’s no faking or pretending if we are being led by the Spirit.

Be Sensitive

“Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind” (Philippians 2:1-2)

Sometimes family hurts run very deep within the hearts of our siblings. If we’ve been healed or protected by God’s grace—all the more reason, we need to be sensitive to the things that cause them pain. Our sensitive responses reveal how we are sincere in our desire to be close to them.

Be Available

“Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good” (Titus 3:1).

Our availability to our siblings is one of the best indicators of our desire to be close to them. We may not be able to see or talk to them every day. However we can make greater efforts to reach out even in a text or card. They need to know that we can be available when they are ready to talk or need advice on an issue.

Sibling Relationships instead of Sibling Rivalry

Satan and the world thrive off of division within families. However God has called us to be the peacemakers not only on the job and community, but also for our families. We may need to forgive and let go of the past in getting closer to our siblings. As we pray daily for them, let us seek God for wisdom and direction to get closer to them while we still have a chance to do so.

 

 

 

little steps

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This little lady is about to explore the great outdoors.

The winter chill has mellowed down and the weather has become comfortably bearable for our 8 months old Summer. Raising a child in this side of the planet comes with a challenge in experiencing nature at its best as the weather shoots up either too high or too low not suited for outdoor activities.

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view from Jebel Jais Mountain in RAK, UAE

However, we were able to manage and squeezed into the fair weather and give Summer a piece of nature where she stood in wander and childish curiosity. Priceless!28081458_10212694349532130_1053513019_o28125425_10212694347692084_1055376442_o

For most days, Summer’s itinerary includes going from our building and her babysitters. In between, she gets to see the trees in the roundabouts and center aisles when we pick and drop her on weekdays. She has started to identify the birds that fly herethere, between buildings and free spaces and she loves to look at the sky. Seeing the sparkles in her eyes seeing new things would mean another check mark on my bucket list.

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Resting for a while under this tree.

“If a geographic place rapidly changes in a way that demeans its natural integrity, then children’s early attachment to land is at risk. If children do not attach to the land, they will not reap the psychological and spiritual benefits they can glean from nature, nor will they feel a long-term commitment to the environment, to the place. This lack of attachment will exacerbate the very conditions that created the sense of disengagement in the first place—fueling a tragic spiral, in which our children and the natural world are increasingly detached. I am not suggesting the situation is hopeless. Far from it. Conservation and environmental groups and, in some cases, the traditional Scouting organizations are beginning to awaken to the threat to nature posed by nature-deficit disorder. A few of these organizations, as we will see, are helping to lead the way toward a nature-child reunion. They recognize that while knowledge about nature is vital, passion is the long-distance fuel for the struggle to save what is left of our natural heritage and—through an emerging green urbanism—to reconstitute lost land and water. Passion does not arrive on videotape or on a CD; passion is personal. Passion is lifted from the earth itself by the muddy hands of the young; it travels along grass-stained sleeves to the heart. If we are going to save environmentalism and the environment, we must also save an endangered indicator species: the child in nature.”
― Richard LouvLast Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder

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Going outdoor with your baby is always a good idea as along as safety measures are taken. That includes checking the weather and babys condition if suitble for an outdoor activity. For more of that, read on to this link:  https://www.babycenter.com/0_hiking-with-your-child_8256.bc

happy home

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Watching  this scene is both melancholy and  grand. Summer is looking at the same and maybe felt the same way. At her age, her stares, at things new to her seems  to come with deep understanding.

I remember that once I wanted so much to be happy  that I would hastily jump into decisions  that will lead me into that state  where my hearts desires  are granted. Mostly spontaneous things, going here and there, doing this and that and taking more than what is needed. Life was like that up until the time when I wanted dandelions and daisies .

Its true they say that the hype of youth will pass you by – naturally. Its amazing how some  people never outgrows it. While it says a lot of who we are on what makes us happy I can only speak of my own.

On top of the list would be – motherhood.

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